In the UK we have the Child Support Agency, they are

The_Informer

about to be taken over by C-MEC!? Do you think that child maintenance should only be paid if the two parents are allowed to be involved in the care of the child as long as there is no violence or sex crimes.

I ask this because I have not seen my daughter for about 6 years and I have paid every month without fail, but, I have just found out that my ex has lied on her application as she has not told them about her second job.
Secondly, I have a court order from the family court which gave me access and contact and my ex has stopped this from happening from day one and this has caused so much friction, depression and stress, not only for myself, but, for other members of my family.

I think if the Resident parent does not allow the contact to happen for no apparent reason and she denies access against the court order then the maintenance money should be halved as a form of punishment.

Can I ask what do you think?

For further advice look at this web site: http//:www.dads_uk.co.uk
Katy,
Yes it was a bad divorce but I was not to blame, so why do we have to suffer twice by having the MY child taken away from ME as well because she was angry she had caught!!
Secondly, Katy, I have not grassed her up, read the question carefully, I said I had found out that she had not declared her 2nd job, I also didn't say that she had not declared her husband and 2nd child, nor had she declared that she was not paying the rent to me as she stated as she was living in my house....so before you claim something make sure you know the facts

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flutterby

The maintenance money is for the child though so you would be punishing the child? I think they should do community service and while they are doing that, the other parent would have full custody.

bengimog

Tricky - I can understand where you are coming from - but ask yourself the question, who would you really be punishing if you halved the payments?

I'm fighting my ex at the moment about his access. Up to March I was being more than reasonable, but then on the Sat morning of the overnight weekend access I'd received over 36 calls on my mobile from him, 50 + txts and my VM was full. When I got to the house - that I left and we're still fighting over - he'd smashed furniture up - I discovered that after he threw the keys at my feet. He then threw a chair over my head - I thought he was aiming at me while our two year old was picking up pieces of a broken clock from the living room floor. I stated no overnight access but agreed to two hours out of the house. He took him to the barbers to get his own hair cut - then to the pub where he sent txts to me stating that I better contact the police if I wanted to see my son again as he was taking him 300 miles away. etc etc etc. Anyway I don't think I'm being unreasonable refusing access after my 2 yr old told my mother that daddy broke house, but I don't see why I shouldn't receive payments to aid my son's upbringing!
Each case different - each case has the right and the wrong - but at the end of the day what is truely the best for the child?